Finding a soulmate is no easy feat. Some people don’t even believe in soulmates, because just finding a compatible boyfriend or husband is hard enough.
That’s understandable, but who said there’s only one soulmate out there for you. There might be quite a few. Also, way too many people are confused as to what a soulmate is. They believe that it’s this perfect person that just clicks with them in every way possible, it’s instant and obvious and from that moment on their life will be a perfect fairy tale, they will never argue or disagree with each other and live happily ever after. That’s not quite the case. A soulmate is someone you have instant chemistry with and you just work well together, being similar in some ways, and completely different in others, thus completing each other. So if you do believe in the concept of soulmates and you would like to find yours, here are a couple of tips that might come in handy.
1. Figure Out What You Want
In order to find something, you need to know what you’re looking for. Set some standards for your soulmate. You probably already know what you want, based on other relationships. Make sure to focus on things you want, not on things you don’t want. Don’t focus on the negatives. It’s easy to think “well, I don’t want him to be selfish, I don’t want him to be rude, I don’t want him to be a smoker/drinker”, but instead, focus on the positives like “My soulmate is nice, kind, healthy and altruistic”.
2. Better Yourself
If there’s something about you that you don’t like – take the time to change that if you can, or accept and learn to love it if you can’t. It’s important to focus on yourself first and learn who you are, what you like and try to become the best version of you. Once you’re happy with yourself – that’s when you should start looking for soulmates.
3. Don’t Be Judgemental
When you first meet someone make sure not to judge people harshly, instead give yourself time to get to know them better. Sometimes people are nervous on a first date and they don’t know how to act, other times they might be stressed, and we all aren’t ourselves when we’re stressed. Give people time and the benefit of the doubt and you might be surprised by what you learn.
4. Get Out More
In order to find a soulmate you have to be willing to meet new people. Because let’s be real, if your soulmate was in your friend group – you would’ve met them by now. So go out, be willing to tell people you’re single and ready to meet new people, go on blind dates, allow your friends and family to set you up with someone they think might be a good match for you. Go to parties, go to concerts, festivals, all sorts of social events, meet new people and talk to them.
5. Be Aware Of People That Surround You
Think about everyone you know. Is there someone you might’ve met but didn’t give a chance to? Is there perhaps someone just on the outer circle of your friend group that you don’t know very well, but keep bumping into? Perhaps you’ve been ignoring your soulmate all this time, or maybe you didn’t give them a chance?
6. Be Ready For Surprises
You never know when you’re going to meet your soulmate. It might be someone you never expected to like. Or it could be a stranger you met on a bus and had an instant connection with. Be in touch with your feelings, if you have great chemistry with someone, be prepared to go the extra mile to explore that connection. The best relationships are the ones you have to fight for, and usually they’re worth it.