Read Dear Deidre’s personal replies to today’s problems
I’VE fallen for a stripper who had sex with me in a club on a stag weekend. Now I don’t know whether to try to find her or stay with my girlfriend.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for two years. We met through work — we are both gardeners at a local nursery.
She’s great and we have an amazing relationship and a fantastic sex life. We had sex on the first night we met and haven’t stopped since.
I sometimes go to work looking so tired because we’ve been at it all night. She’s 25 and I’m 28.
My mate was getting married and we arranged a trip to London for his stag weekend.
There were eight of us and we did a big bar crawl and ended up in a really seedy strip club.
My friends were enjoying watching the dancers when a girl came up behind me and put her arm across my shoulders and asked whether I’d buy her a drink.
She was gorgeous, around 25 and wore very little. We both had a drink and she asked if I’d like sex with her as there was a room above the club she could use. I didn’t need asking twice.
We went upstairs and she stripped off my clothes and took charge. We had protected sex and she was pretty wild. She gave me her number but I lost it somewhere later that evening.
I couldn’t stop thinking about her when I got home. My girlfriend wondered what was wrong with me as I just wasn’t interested in sex with her.
In the end I told her I was going to see an old school friend but instead I went back to London and to that strip club. I couldn’t afford to go in but I hung around outside, hoping to see the girl I have fallen for.
Maybe she wasn’t working that day but I didn’t see her. I asked another girl about her and she fobbed me off.
In the end, I went home but now I can’t stop thinking about her. Do you think I should end it with my girlfriend and try to find this girl again?
DEIDRE SAYS: No, it would be pointless. You need a reality check. To her you’re just another punter.
If you found her again, she might not even remember you, never mind want a relationship with you.
Her job is to make guys feel good but it’s likely she’d prefer to have a normal job rather than be selling her body for sex.
Her beautiful body is most likely hiding emotional stress such as a drug problem or debts or children she has to feed.
You have an amazing relationship and a great sex life with your girlfriend so why throw it all away?
Channel your energy into improving what you have with her so no-one else can turn your head.
My e-leaflet 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex could help.